Friday, June 23, 2017

The Power of "I am"

The words "I am" are the two of the most powerful words in the English language.

You see, after those two words, comes the things with which we define ourselves.  What we sincerely believe ourselves to be.  And words, my friends, thoughts, become things.

How do you talk to yourself?  Are you kind?  Are you loving?  Are you gentle?

Do you speak to yourself as you would speak to a friend or family member?

Unfortunately, for many of us, we just aren't.  We are quick to criticize ourselves.  To call ourselves fat, or ugly, or stupid... or just generally not "enough."

I get it.  I've been there.  I've been the girl who always thought her friends were better than her. Prettier, smarter, thinner, more "put together"..  generally just what I thought I wasn't.

And wished I could be.

I am the same person now.  The same "pretty," the same "smart," the same ME...

But I have learned to change my mindset.  To stop judging myself against the standards of others.  To see that being me is the best person to be.  And for everyone else, being them is who they need to be.. and it has nothing to do with me. ;)

It is freeing to adopt this mindset.

And difficult.

It requires work.

It requires a conscience effort to change your thoughts..  To be INTENTIONAL about what is going on in your own head.

Diving into those personal development books that seem to get a bad rap.. or at least an eyeroll from many...  can help you do this.  You might not think they are for you..  but why the heck not try to grow yourself!?  Try to be a better version of you and learn to accept and love yourself as you are??  Personal development is a multi million dollar industry.. I am CERTAIN there is a book, most likely many, that could help you.

Starting to do the things you thought you couldn't, but really wanted deep down inside.  And starting to become proud of yourself.

Let's be honest ladies..  only good things can come from learning to feel good about yourself.  So I challenge you today.. Take notice of your thoughts..  Take notice of those words that follow the "I am" in your brain...  Write them down.  Make a list.  And then go back and see how you are treating you..  and make the effort to flip them to the positive.  Make them loving.

I promise ladies.. YOU ARE worth the effort.